Jessie

Hi fellow tomboys,
My name is Jessie (short for Jessica) and I’m 18 years old. I have been a tomboy my whole life though i did wear girly things till i was six. That was the time my parents realized that i liked boy stuff better than girl stuff. They let me cut my hair short and wear boy clothes. I played with cars and dinosaurs and played soccer with the boys. My hair grew long again but i always wore it in a ponytail. When my teens came i hated it that i started developing and looking more femine. The boys in my class also were not as willing to play with a girl anymore and i felt lonely and different. Luckily i became friends with a great group of girls who although being girly themselves accepted me for who i was. When i turned 16 i started bodybuilding and martial arts training. I started to get bigger muscles and a six pack and felt strong and more confident about myself and my body. I love reading fantasy novels about dragons and warriors and see the female warriors in these books (like Brienne, Arya and Ygritte in game of thrones.) as role models. I also love being outside in nature and am about to start studying environmental sciences. When people see me they often think i am a lesbian but I’m quite certain that I like guys. I have thought about being transgender because i often wish i were a boy, but in the end I am happy with who i am: A heterosexual female who just happens to be adventurous and enjoys doing boy things.

Anonymous

I need to rage, if anyone actually takes the time to read this whole thing, AMEN to you. (No religion reference, don’t get me started)

I’m tired of being a girl. I’m going into seventh grade and all the boys tease me for being ugly and… for being me. I’ve always loved sports and video games, and I can’t stand dresses, skirts, makeup etc and other girly girly stuff. Almost no girl wants to be friends with me. Every one is soo immature and I can’t hang out with another boy without hearing the classic. ‘Sittin in a tree, K I S S I N G’ song. I was at a camp the other day and asked the boys if I could play soccer with them… they gave me a look like I was crazy. But that last part does make a bit of sense. Every FREAKIN other girl there is like “OMG I got big breasts and I’m pretty and wear makeup marry me” and scream their heads off whenever they so much as see a bug. And yet they wear lipstick, which mostly contains of crushed bugs. ‘ Cause it’s everything for fashion! And now days I’m feeling discouraged just to do anything because all the boys are huge and naturally stronger than me. I don’t have much upper body strength, and I can’t pull my 12 year old 70 pound self up for a single push up. But I can do more curlups and run faster than any damn boy at my school (although I have no endurance) and I’m the star of my soccer team. But nooo, I’m a girl so I have to be treated like a little pussy for being one. And the thing is, I’m not happy with being a girl. I’d much rather be a male. You guys don’t have to worry about any breasts bouncing around, and you can actually take your shirt off without being embarrassed. If by some unlucky chance you get r*ped then you won’t have ANY chance of getting pregnant. And if that wasn’t enough, a study showed that the average female gets paid 72 cents for every man’s American dollar. You men just look at us as housewives and cooks, and I’ve given up my dream of being a food critic because of the way I’ve been looked at. Just writing this makes me cry for the first times in years. It’s so unfair, I’m tired of being called ugly and don’t you DARE in the comments be like “No ur just the average pretty girl!” Cause I’m NOT. I used to look and the mirror and think. “Is this really me? I don’t look normal”

Shawn

Hey. I go by the name Shawn. I wanna dress fully like a tomboy but my parents dislikes it. So, I dress in more and more guys clothes gradually. (obviously i’m getting it myself. They wouldn’t agree to get it) I’ve been thinking of coming out but i’m kinda afraid of their rejection/reactoon. In my previous school (girl school), there were many tbs, it was fun around them as they understand and respect you for who you are. Sometimes it seems like friends accept you more than yr own parents. Nevertheless, i still love them and hope that they will accept me for who i am when i come out to them (soon hopefully)

Jess

Hey, im Jess. I guess that you could call me a tomboy. but the thing is, I have a sister that’s popular and pretty. my mom wants me to be like her when I go to a new school next year, and that’s kind of hard. I hear boys talk behind my back about me because I act like a boy. I just wear a tee, shorts or jeans, and any shoes that I can just slip on and go. I play gta, minecraft, super meat boy, Mario and much more. im also kinda strong. im always judged for who I am, and what I wear. the only people who respect me for who I am is my boyfriend, best friend and dad. im sick of being picked on for who I am. when I was younger I was more girly, and I picked on boys a lot. that’s because I didn’t know what they were into, so I rough housed with them, and found out they hated me. so I spent a ton of time alone, had some depression but soon found out who I was. ive gone through family losses this year, so I am spending a lot of time trying to figure out is this really me? do I want to always put up with this and if I change, will it stop?
I just want to be respected for who I am, and forget about the past.

Sue

Hi There, My daughter is 4 and insists she’s a boy. She loves all things boys and has never shown any interest in any ‘girly things’ as does her twin sister. I’ve explained to her that although she’s not a boy she is a tomboy. She wasn’t happy about not being a boy but she is happy about being a tomboy! So to all you tomboys out there – I need some advise! I worry about her… she told me last night that she thinks about being a boy while I sleep… Any advise would be appreciated.

June

I am a tomboy. All my friends are boys I dress like a boy and I am bisexual June is my nickname. Sometimes I just get so tired of labels. My mom buys me feminine clothes when I really just want to wear t-shirts and jeans.I sneak out and tag the old brick walls around my block with quotes of peace and inspiration to express myself. Sometimes I am just tired of the labels.

Anonymous

Hello, (for privacy reasons I’m not telling you my real name)
I am a 14 yr old tomboy going into 9th grade and I dress tomboyish only because my mom won’t let me dress in full on boy clothes. I mean she will let me have an occasional boy shirt or flannel but if I see a pair of guys pants that I like she will look at me and say ‘but those are boys pants” she won’t let me have a short haircut like a pixie cut because she said it will make me look like a lesbian, it will make me look like a boy who is cross dressing in womens clothing and so on, not that I have a problem with people who are gay in any way but i wouldn’t care if I looked like a lesbian. It sucks because she won’t let me be who I am.

Maud

Hi. I’m Matilda, Maud for short. I guess I’m a tomboy. I adore sports and practice them regulary. I dress mainly in jeans, t-shirts and jumpers (no pink or purple) and get on better with guys more than girls. I haven’t worn a dress for six or seven years. All the children in my family are male, so I’ve grown up around boys. People are continually saying I’m too boyish and not ladylike enough, but I don’t care. I’m fine as I am.

PJ

Sup, i’m PJ. I’m 15 and i’ve been a tomboy since forever. I was born in a small and poor country in Europe so all my clothes came from my guy cousins and I actually grew fond of it. I despise dresses and skirts. Honestly, I can’t ride my skateboard with that crap on and how would I survive a zombie apocalypse in those hell heels. I love my video games, and sports. But I’ve always been out casted. for some reason people love making assumptions. The thing is, I’m heterosexual, I’m catholic (but i have nothing against homosexuals, bi, transgender or asexuals) and I’m not dumb either. I actually have the 2nd highest gpa in my sophomore class with a 4.03 yet I’m seen for the outside. I still wear eye makeup like eyeliner but that’s not good enough to stop the names or my parents annoyance of my anti-femininity. and somehow my music taste gets wrapped up in it too. I love classic rock and modern rock. I constantly listen to Nirvana, Queen, My Chemical Romance, Paramore, BVB, FOB, P!ATD, etc. I don’t understand what any of this has to do with what type of a person I am and why people judge me and want me to change. I feel you all, but we can grow stronger
Here’s to the tomboys!

Lil

Hi I’m 12 and I get called a girly girl but guess what I never wear skinny jeans or girly tops. I wear plaid shirts and well just plain jeans I’m not interested in makeup and plucking eyebrows. I also have bushy-ish eyebrows and I’ve lived with my brothers my whole life. I have a little sis and I’m in foster care and my dad says I’m a girly girl but I don’t think so. I hate being called a girly girl and he asked me what I wanted and I said sweats and a guitar. Also do u think I’m a poser? just asking.